Parenting with Positivism : Issue 20

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Mar 2016 . VOLUME 20 . ISSUE 20 Tips for raising your superstar with common-sense and Love
How to handle your child’s temper tantrum?

Temper tantrums of children are stressful and frustrating issues parents have to deal with. According to child psychologists, tantrums are a symptom of the child’s anger and frustration when they are unable to explain what’s really troubling them. Therefore, parents need to stay calm and learn to identify what is really bothering the child in order to handle the situation quickly and effectively.

Steps recommended to deal with the situation are as follows:-
Remain calm to handle the tantrum. Children need a calming influence of the parents.
Identify the child’s needs. Tantrum could be the result of frustration, lack of needed attention from you, or even a physical problem.
Offer your child a choice of coping strategies. Conversely, have consequences and enforce them if he chooses to get upset
Give clear explanations instead of just saying “no.” Providing a reason for your actions will help the child make sense of things and feel more in control of the situation.
Hold your ground. Be empathetic but firm when you talk with your child, and once you’ve given a calm explanation, don’t back down. Your child may or may not calm down right away, but he or she will remember that throwing a tantrum doesn’t lead to satisfactory results. Next time he or she will be less likely to throw a tantrum.
Take steps to prevent injury. Some children can become quite animated during a tantrum. If this occurs, remove dangerous objects from the child’s path or steer the child away from danger.
Try to avoid restraining a child during a tantrum, but sometimes this is necessary and comforting. Be gentle but hold him or her firmly. Speak reassuringly to the child, especially if the tantrum is the result of disappointment, frustration, or unfamiliar surroundings.
Don’t lose your own temper. It’s important to model the behavior you want to see for your child. If you lose it and start yelling and throwing an adult-style tantrum of your own, your child will see this type of behavior as something that’s acceptable at your house.
Do not spank or yell at your child. Losing control of yourself in this way will only make your child feel confused and scared of you. It won’t lead to a healthy and trusting relationship.
Help your child feel loved no matter what. Sometimes kids throw tantrums because they just want some extra love and attention. Your child should know that you love him or her no matter what.
Avoid berating your child or saying “I’m so disappointed in you” when he or she throws a tantrum.
Hug your child and say “I love you,” even if you’re very frustrated with his or her behavior.
Be consistent.
Knowing When to Get Professional Advice
See if you’re getting through to your child. If your child keeps throwing tantrums no matter what you do, you might want to get outside assistance from a doctor or therapist, who can provide more ideas that suit the specific needs of your child. See if the tantrums are related to an environmental factor. Certain environmental stimulants might be causing your child to have more tantrums than normal. Sometimes kids may have sensitivity to food, light, big crowds, music, or other factors that irritate them and cause them to break down in frustration.
Observe the times when your child has tantrums, , and see if you think the tantrums are connected to something in the environment. Take away the stimulant and see if that helps. See if the tantrums persist as the child gets older. Most kids eventually outgrow throwing tantrums when they learn other effective forms of communication. If your child keeps throwing tantrums well past the toddler stage, there may be something going on that needs to be addressed. Consider taking your child to a doctor or therapist to see if there’s a deeper issue at hand.
Take your child to the doctor if tantrums are frequent or violent. If your child throws a tantrum multiple times a day, or if the tantrums are particularly violent and exhausting,
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